Female Body Language, Interpreted by Team SG
Is she into you or just leaning in?
We all give off cues – verbal, physical, and otherwise when attracted to the opposite sex. I once read that when you’re talking to a guy and he pulls his socks up, it means he’s interested in you. I knew female body language cues were a thing, but socks?
Something going back to a pre-sock era when men had fewer ways to appear more attractive to women…the whole theory seemed less causal and more coincidental, until my next date, when I was out to dinner with a guy who pulled his socks up while I was talking and I fuh-reaked out…before coming to the conclusion (while he was in the bathroom) that if I was wearing socks and they fell down I would probably try to fix them while the other person was talking too.
You can see how much thought I put into that, and that was about socks. I can only imagine how hard it is to understand the 5o+ subtle cues ladies make when we show interest in you.
To help you guys out, I punched “flirty female body language” into the ol’ Google machine and read everything I could find on what the experts had to say, which I then measured it up to what I know I actually do, so you guys can have a multi-dimensional perspective the next time a woman does…well, nearly anything, in your proximity.
Below, five female body language moves you need to know:
1. Women tend to expose their neck and touch their hair when flirtingWikiHow‘s guide prescribes to this theory
This may be true for girls who think their neck or hair is their best asset, but I know when I’m interested in a guy I try to put all my hair in in front of me. I’ll separate it in the back and pull it evenly over my shoulders if I have a middle part, or all around one shoulder if I have a side part. Granted the second will expose my neck, but I’m more focused on the hair aspect.
So, why hair? Because “the first thing that guys notice is your hair,” says the internet, knower of all things. Very few things are more feminine than long, flowing locks, and we know this is the pièce de résistance. My hair is pretty thin, so if I can do any magic to make it look like I have more of it (without resorting to using a bump-it) then I’m in.
2. She holds eye contact if she’s interested in you
This is spot-on if she’s an extrovert, but if she’s shy she may avoid your gaze. How do I know this? Because I was painfully shy when I first started college, despite what my freshman year roommate says, and if I liked a guy I totally could not maintain eye contact for fear of looking like a toootal creeper.
So what if she isn’t making eye contact but you think she may be interested? Figure out where she’s looking. If she’s looking at the ground instead of you I’d say you’re just too charming for her to handle. If she’s looking around the room then she’s probably looking for someone else.
3. Physical contact means she wants your bod
Absolutely yes. A nudge on the shoulder, a playful push, and a hand resting on your lap are all signs that she’s totally crushing. Even if she kicks you she’s probably just trying to leave a mark…on your heart.
If she doesn’t rub herself all up on you, don’t worry! Not all of us ladies are Olivia Newton-John, so she may not want to hear your body talk, especially if you’re in a public setting.
4. If her feet point towards you she likes you
This was one of the subplots in an episode of New Girl (all of which I binge–watched on Netflix in about 72 hours; don’t judge). Jess’s BFF Cece told her that if a guy points their feet at you while you’re talking, he’s interested in you, and vice versa. I won’t ruin the whole episode for you but I will tell there’s a scene where Zooey Deschanel is jumping around trying to not get her feet pointed at so if you’re into that I highly advise watching it.
But to answer whether or not this is a true indicator I would say yes, because if a girl crosses her legs and the top leg is facing you she’s probably going to turn her whole body in that direction, including her shoulders, which would mean she is facing you, which means that she’s making an effort to put herself in your view. We are jealous (despite what ANY girl says) and we want to be the center of your attention, so we will put ourself smack dab in the center of your face if we can maneuver ourselves there smoothly.
5. When a girl leans in towards you, she’s interested in hearing what you have to say
I’d say this is mostly true. I would be wary of this if you are in a loud place, but if she nods and giggles at inappropriate points in the conversation you’ll know she’s not paying attention, and therefore not interested. If her leaning in action is accompanied with “what?” x4 then she probably just can’t understand your mumbling, but may still be interested.
Obviously my opinion doesn’t represent the whole female population, and this list doesn’t emcompass the entire spectrum of female flirtatious actions – what can I say, we’re complex creatures! But I think it shows a fair representation of how the actions we take sometimes say what we won’t.
WHAT SUBTLE HINTS DO YOU LOOK FOR FROM A WOMAN YOU WANT TO ENGAGE WITH?