6 Ways to Impress Women, According to Women

We’re here to make it official: you can catch a good woman’s eye without dropping stacks on new threads or committing to a 5-star restaurant courtship. 

All you need to worry about when it comes to ways to impress her? Being the best version of yourself. The Style Girlfriend team is here with some surefire wins on doing exactly that. 

6 surefire ways to impress women, from the women of SG HQ:

1) Frequent small gestures mean more than a rare big gesture

2) Be okay on your own with her friends

3) Keep your phone in your pocket

4) Take listening to the next level

5) Do you

6) Mind your manners

Ready to dig into these can’t-miss ways to impress women? Read on.

1. Frequent small gestures mean more than a rare big gesture

MEGAN SAYS: Did anyone ever watch Kocktails with Khloe? (Don’t judge me.)

On the final episode of the short-lived Kardashian spin-off, Kanye West somehow managed to mispronounce the last name of his then-wife, Kim.

Of course, now I can’t even find a clip online, but just picture it. The rapper managed to make “Kardashian” rhyme with… “Parmesan”?!?

For her part, Kim looked…not even upset, so much as confused?

So I guess what I’m saying is: baseline level of expectation of impressing women at this point is pronouncing her name right – especially if you’re married.

Once you’re covered off on pronunciation, small gestures are always nice.

If you think you like this person, do yourself a solid and legit delight her with a move that will make her friends jealous they’re not living in a romantic comedy starring Anne Hathaway.

Seamless some french fries from her favorite restaurant uptown to her office downtown, or call the bar where she and her girlfriends are doing happy hour and buy the group a round.

Heck, show up to the movies with a drugstore hat trick tucked up your sleeve (Sour Patch Kids, Reese’s Pieces and mini bottles of booze to spike your jumbo soda, obviously). I guarantee she’ll be bowled over.

2. Be okay on your own with her friends

When it comes to ways to impress women, confidence is key. I love when a guy can hold his own in a crowd or a group of people, especially if he’s never met them before.

I’m not saying be the center of attention. But if I’ve brought you to an event or a party, show that you don’t need to be babysat all night.

Strike up conversations, introduce yourself, and form your own connections with my friends/coworkers/family.

3. Keep your phone in your pocket

GABI SAYS: I make a conscious effort to keep my phone away and out of sight on early dates. It’s just polite!

I personally hate the cultural desire to be perceived as busy, and nothing says I’m busier – and therefore more important than you – than pulling out your phone in the company of someone else. 

4. Take listening to the next level

I know, I know… “Women just want a guy that listens” has been touted as the secret for winning any female affection in every magazine on your lady friend’s coffee table, but here’s the thing: that doesn’t mean she wants someone to talk at for hours on end: what’s really great is when a guy engages you in conversation and adds as much as he absorbs.

We want you to know that a fun round of conversation ping-pong goes a long way.

I went on a few (read: very few) dates with a fellow who so rarely offered up commentary or asked a question back to me that happy hour outings ended up feeling like interrogation sessions. Not a dating tactic I’m trying to develop.

While hearty banter secures you a direct line to my compliment center, I’m even more impressed when a guy references prior conversations we’ve had. It not only shows that you were listening, but that you’re interested enough to make space in your mind to keep that intel rattling around alongside sports stats and your mom’s birthday.

As in: If your date mentions a big work presentation coming up, take a literal few seconds to ping her afterwards and ask how it went. Did she bring up her love of live music and name drop a local band she’d like to see? Then she’s basically done the work for you when it comes to planning the perfect second date. It’s the ultimate flattery.

5. Be yourself

JEN SAYS: I’m always most impressed when I can sense that a guy is truly being himself. Nothing is worse than getting the sneaking suspicion that a guy is trying to play a game somehow or is just holding back parts of himself. I’m trying to get to know YOU so show me who you are!

It’s going to come out sooner or later anyway, so why not just surrender to your weird/dorky/sarcastic side now?

Who knows, maybe I’m INTO that particular quality.

So don’t censor yourself too much, even on a first date. If you don’t want to wait three days to text (which is silly and borderline rude anyway) then don’t do it just because you think it’s a “rule.” Do you.

6. Mind your manners

TAYLOR SAYS: Good manners are the number one way to impress me, and I bet one of the best ways to impress women at large.

The last guy I dated always opened the car door for me and would help me with my jacket when we’d go out to eat.

It never got old, and always made me feel special and appreciated.

I’m often wary of trying to describe my job to a new guy. It’s beyond impressive when a date—even if he has absolutely no clue about writing or god forbid, style—asks thoughtful questions about what I do! I promise I won’t talk about myself all night, but I’ll definitely remember you asked.