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How to Have More Rizz with Women

Charm school is in session
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by Team SG Updated: May 8, 2025

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Clooney’s got it. So does Barack Obama. The actor Tom Holland claimed to Buzzfeed that he doesn’t have any, but he’s just being modest. And now, it’s Oxford University Press’s Word of the Year.

We’re talking about rizz, the TikTok-ified slang term for charisma.

What does what Rizz mean?

When a man is described as having rizz, it’s not about looks—instead, it means he exudes a seemingly effortless charm and magnetism, especially with women.

The new word follows last year’s “goblin mode”—meaning, sometime between this year and last, rizz became a thing.

It makes our team think men are ready to make a good impression, which is great. Because to have good rizz means you can easily capture others’ attention, leaving a lasting impression wherever you go.

While some men seem to be born with rizz, it’s entirely possible to build your charisma muscles.

Below, the secrets women want you to know on how to get good rizz:

1. Confidence is Key

Charisma starts with confidence. Before anyone else can clock your rizz, you’ve got to do the work of cultivating self-assurance for yourself.

Work on speaking without filler words such as “um” and “like.” Smile and make eye contact with everyone from the barista to the bank teller. You can build confidence by committing to positive, personality-building habits in low-stakes moments.

2. It’s time to Master the Art of Nonverbal Communication

Remember, the way you carry yourself has the power to communicate a lot about you before you’ve even said a word.

Your body language speaks volumes, and harnessing its power is essential in boosting your rizz.

Maintain an open, friendly posture. Look out at the world around you when walking down the street, not down at your feet. Keep your nose out of your phone in moments of downtime and rest in quiet confidence instead.

3. Develop Your Conversational Skills

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Politicians like Bill Clinton have rizz in spades because they’ve honed their conversational skills to demonstrate authentic interest in others.

If you want to practice your own conversational skills, consider taking a stand-up or improv class. Or join a local Toastmasters club where you can learn how to communicate effectively in a structured environment.

Remember, rizz is a muscle that can be developed, not an ephemeral quality you’re either born with or not. And you can’t build muscles without hitting the gym and getting your reps in. Meaning? Don’t shy away from making an effort when it comes to this stuff!

4. Dress the Part

Did you think we weren’t going to say that a part of how to get good rizz is dressing well?

Dressing well not only boosts your confidence, it also showcases your unique point of view and attention to detail.

By honing in on a wardrobe that reflects your personality and fits you impeccably, you’ll exude a confidence that’s very attractive.

From there, you can start to experiment with colors, patterns, and accessories to create a signature look that makes heads turn wherever you go.

5. Cultivate Your Passions

Charismatic individuals often possess a deep passion for something that radiates naturally through their words and actions. So, what are you interested in? Whether it’s an art form, a hobby, an era of history, or a cause you believe in, channel your energy into it.

Note: investing time and energy in your passions does take willpower!

When you could be mindlessly scrolling on TikTok, practice the piano for a half hour instead. Or read a book on the French revolution. Sign up to volunteer at a food bank every other Wednesday night.

Whatever you’re interested in, actively make time to learn, to practice, to invest. With this kind of commitment, your passions will naturally come out in conversations with others and amplify your rizz.

6. Practice Mindfulness and Self-Care

To radiate rizz, you must maintain a balanced state of mind. Engage in activities that recharge and ground you, like meditation, exercise, and spending time in nature.

Nurturing your well-being not only enhances your confidence but also enables you to show up as your best self in every interaction.

7. Cultivate Emotional Intelligence

Rizz goes beyond surface-level charm. It requires an understanding of emotions and the ability to empathize with others. Enhance your emotional intelligence by actively observing and interpreting the feelings of those around you.

Practice empathy, respond with kindness, and be attuned to the needs and concerns of others. This kind of authentic connection enhances your rizz and makes you a relatable and approachable presence.

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